Last week (I wasn't around to write then), Darwin Shrugged chose the topic: Write about a trait you find attractive in others. In can be a physical trait or a personality trait.
First, read what everyone else had to share on this topic. I will be only posting links to posts on this same topic from my group. So check back if you were hoping to read their blogs and don't see a link yet.
As soon as I saw this topic, I knew what I was going to write about. I didn't even have to think about it! Weirdly enough, Moma Rock chose the same trait. Great minds.... (Side note: I didn't read her post while I was writing this, so this is all original material.)
I think it's crucial to have a good sense of humor if you want me to find you attractive. Notice I said "good" before "sense of humor." Anyone can be funny in their own way, but if I don't find them funny, it's hard for me to feel that connection. Also, having a common bond over what you find funny is important. Let's put this in terms of celebrities. There's a comedic actress whose last name rhymes with "humor." I find it ironic because I don't think she is funny at all. I know it's not just me, as my husband agrees, and some other people have replied to a previous post about her stating the same. However, I think Mindy Kaling is hilarious and she'd totally crack me up if we hung out. (If I could even be in the same room with her without passing out from star-struck excitement.)
When I was dating, whether it was casual or with a marriage-minded focus, sense of humor was one of the top traits I looked for in a boyfriend or potential husband. If you can make me laugh, that's major brownie points. I'm always telling my husband he should be a comedian, but he tells me that I'd have to clone myself to fill the audience. My friends think he is funny, and he makes our kids laugh all the time. So it's not just me there either. We have sooooo many inside jokes. I write them down to keep track of them. Some have been long-running over many years, perhaps since we started dating. Others have just sprouted up recently. Sometimes the two of us laugh together so hard that we can't see straight. So it's not always just him making me laugh, but us also sharing in things we find funny together. We love going to comedy shows and we usually agree on which comedians are the best and which ones tanked. I could go on and on about how much I love my husband's sense of humor and our shared beliefs in what is truly funny. Most recently, when we were on vacation, our kids were playing this bean bag toss game. He was taking videos of them and our older son said "I got one hundred points!" in a really funny way. He kept playing the video over and over and we were laughing so much.
There are some friends I share a sense of humor with and I'd like to give a shout-out to a few. It doesn't mean I don't think you're funny if I don't give you a shout-out. I like having a lot of friends with whom I can laugh over various things. Some are naturally funny and make me laugh. Others are just fun to bond with over humorous things. If we haven't laughed together, either you or I might have to start worrying....
*Moma Rock: We have yet to meet in person and have only Skyped once, but we have this humor connection going strong through our e-mails and Facebook messages. We can freely talk about poop without grossing each other out. Whenever I get spam comments on my blog, I share them with her and we make sarcastic comments about them. We also like a lot of the same comedy shows, like Arrested Development and Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt.
*Jen Tucker (a.k.a. the Chick Lit Cheerleader over at my book blog): When I first read her book, The Day I Wore My Panties Inside Out, I knew we were destined to be friends. I was crying from laughing so hard at this one part in her book. She's always finding ways to crack me up and she has such a fun and positive spirit all the time. We share in our repulsion of creepy floaty things in our tea.
*M.A.: A friend in my community who shares my initials (our maiden name initial is the same too, oddly enough). We're always sending each other funny memes and articles about motherhood. Our youngest kids are the same age, so we definitely relate on that level. She's just very easygoing and we have fun laughing together. One time, we got lost going to the movie theater (and even getting home), but it was fun to laugh about it with her.
*T.L.: A friend who one day wrote "I ate a sandwich" on her Facebook status because she knew it would crack me up. We find other fun things to laugh about too. I try to make her laugh whenever possible, and I usually succeed.
*M.S.: An online friend who isn't afraid to send me offensive jokes because she knows I'll find them funny and won't get mad. I think we try to out-offend one another! I've been busy and need to get back on track with sending her funny stuff.
Here are some other friends with whom I have inside jokes. (Of course, I mentioned my husband there too.)
What do you find most attractive about another person?