Then I started going to "Rocky Horror" at the end of senior year of HS. It was the first time I truly felt accepted by a group of people. I think it gave me a lot of confidence for college and beyond. I wouldn't say I was popular enough to be well known in college, but I did make friends more easily during those years. That was a springboard to my grown-up life. After college, I started introducing my college friends to the people I still talked to from high school. My high school friends reunited me with other high school friends. Needless to say, I was friends with more people from my high school as an adult than in high school. It was like having one mega reunion. :) And the Internet helped a lot too. I've met people from so many different places online. First it was through the V.C. Andrews club. Later, it was through a parenting group on iVillage. Eventually, Facebook came along to tie all my connections into a pretty little package. Moving out east was another contributor. I wouldn't say I was popular where I lived in NJ, but I managed to meet people in different ways. And now I'm here in this wonderful community where everyone is so friendly. And this is the first time I don't really feel worried about where I fit in. It's just nice and comfortable. I enjoy hanging out with the friends I have met and only wish I had more time to spend with everyone. The nicest feeling (probably more for my husband than myself, but still...) was having so many friends from our community show up at my husband's surprise birthday party after only knowing us for about 3 months.
The other thing I love is how a close friend tells me that she has a friendship connection "theory" called "Six Degrees of Melissa." It sounds funny, but it's a nice thing to hear nonetheless. I could almost relate it to Jewish Geography. (Which Facebook also takes to a whole new level.) Jewish Geography is a contributor to how I met my husband. (It was initially through a friend of a friend of a friend, and so on...)
After being at the bottom of the elementary, junior high and high school food chains, it's really nice to have some form of redemption. :) I just love connecting with old and new friends. I really do cherish my friendships, especially the ones from those who stuck by me even when it wasn't "cool" to do so. :)