The art of vague-blogging

Sometimes I only get the chance to blog once a week. And since I can't always get up the motivation to think of a topic, it's nice to have other friends to blog with so we can take turns. I enjoy being challenged to write about stuff that might not normally come to mind and also reading everyone else's thoughts on the same topic. Blog Project 3.0 has been going on for over a year, even though one of the group members changed after a few months. I love blogging with this group and I hope we can continue to inspire each other.

This week, Darwin Shrugged chose the topic: Write about that moment you knew you had to break up with someone. If you’ve never been the breaker, write about the moment you knew you had to end a friendship or other relationship.

First, read what everyone else had to share on this topic. I will be only posting links to posts on this same topic from my group. So check back if you were hoping to read their blogs and don't see a link yet.

Darwin Shrugged
Froggie
Moma Rock

There are certain break-ups that I choose not to talk about on here. I've also probably wrote enough about the friend break-ups I've experienced. So I'm going a different route and talking about my break-up with a celebrity. I know it sounds one-sided, but it's hard to be a fan of someone famous and then have your admiration for them just go down the tubes one day when you were least expecting it to happen. I'm not going to name names, as that is slander. If you know who I am talking about, it's probably because I alluded to it on Facebook without actually saying names there either (but gave enough of a clue).

Let's just say that for a long time, I thought the world of this celebrity. They were attractive and incredibly talented. Needless to say, both are still true, but I just can't admire them anymore. Not after what happened a while back. (And it's not because they starred in a movie I deeply dislike. This happened before that movie came out. And no, the movie was bad on its own. The situation didn't taint it.)

I went to see this celebrity perform in a live show. It wasn't their best performance, but I also think this show wasn't a good vehicle for their talent. Afterward, I waited outside with crowds of other fans to meet them. They took a very long time to finally come outside, pretty much waiting until the last minute. And when they finally appeared, they were emotionally distant and just said they could sign one or two autographs and they had to leave. While I respect that they have a personal life, it was really hard to not be completely miffed and disappointed. (Darwin, think about this in terms of Bon Jovi....if you had an opportunity to meet him and he didn't even so much as LOOK at you and then just rushed off, how would you feel?) So yes, it was unsettling.

When I brought up the situation on my Facebook page, I got all sorts of slack from people about not appreciating that celebrities have personal lives and that we shouldn't put so much pressure on them to be nice to their fans. I heard them out and I agreed with some of what they said. However, it doesn't sit any better with me over a year later. I can't listen to this celebrity's CDs or watch anything they are in without just feeling complete annoyance for them. (I do make exceptions for CDs they're on with other performers, as I just like those too much to give them up.) Even when I see them perform on something live for TV, it doesn't change that feeling.

I think my disappointment in the way they acted in person is warranted, speaking as a huge fan of this celebrity prior to the situation. I know that they have been good to some of their fans, so it's not just the way they are all the time. So I'm pretty much over this celebrity and really don't see what the big deal about them is. And when their ex-significant other started following me on Twitter, I was more than happy to switch my loyalty to them. (I heard that the split wasn't ugly, so I don't feel as guilty for thinking this way.)

These days, I am nervous to meet other celebrities I highly admire because I don't think I could take another blow to my fanhood. On the other hand, I'm such a star-struck fangirl that it would be hard for me to miss out on meeting them. I did meet a "legendary" celebrity last year and was impressed that they not only agreed to a selfie together, but also smiled. It was more my being totally nervous around them that probably made them think I'm weird. :) And even some authors have put me off from meeting them ever again, even if I still like their books. (And even then, it was mostly because they made me feel like another face in the crowd, even if they were nice at the time.) Some people have told me that authors have put them off of their books after meeting in person, so I know they can relate to my situation with this celebrity. Most of the authors I've met in person have been the friendliest and most down-to-earth and they're more celebrities to me than actors, actresses, musicians, etc. One well-known (and favorite) author made a HUGE impression by acknowledging me in their latest novel this past winter, so that definitely makes up for the break-up mentioned today.

There have been times I just naturally lost interest in celebrities, but it wasn't over anything they did. My tastes just changed as I've grown up. My childhood celebrity crushes are so different from my current crushes.

I  hope that if Darwin Shrugged actually meets Bon Jovi, he treats her like the fabulous fan she is. She deserves nothing less!